how play can build connection for kids and families

Ask yourself: when was the last time you just had fun with your kids? No agenda, no goal in mind, just some old-fashioned belly-laughing fun.

With all of life’s responsibilities, it might feel like going out to play with your kids is irresponsible. The truth is, it might actually be one of the most important ways to connect with your kids!

why play matters

The American Academy of Pediatrics cites many benefits of screen-free play:

• Builds problem-solving skills
• Helps with friendship and peer relationships
• Builds confidence and self-esteem
• Helps kids learn how to connect with others

Think back to your childhood. What did you enjoy doing with the adults in your life? Maybe it was playing kickball in the backyard, playing cards or board games, or making a cake together. These moments of play allow kids to see a different side of you, beyond the routines and responsibilities of everyday life.

Play helps kids feel connected to their parents and caregivers in a less stressful environment. These shared experiences help create memories for kids and for the whole family.

enter your child’s world through play

Play can look different depending on your child’s age and interests. Play can be sports, outdoor activities, drawing, cooking, or even dancing around the kitchen. Or, it can be shared experiences, activities, or games. Here are some ideas to get you started:

• Follow your child’s interests and let them pick something they enjoy doing
• Ask your child to teach you something they are good at
• Learn a new skill together

focus on the process, not perfection

Play isn’t just something kids need for growth and development. It is also a way for kids and parents to connect. Teach by example that you don’t have to be good at things to have fun. The main goal is simply to spend time together. You can do this by:

• Controlling your own emotions about winning and losing.
• Taking a breath and reminding yourself that it’s okay to just have fun.
• Saying out loud, “This is just about fun”.
• Laughing it off when things don’t go to plan: flour explosion while trying to bake a cake? No problem!
• Acknowledging that you don’t have to love every game your child chooses. It isn’t always about what you find fun but rather stepping into your child’s world for a little while.
• Remember, play doesn’t always have to have an agenda.

things to avoid

• Turning everything into a “teaching moment”
• Turning play into an interview with constant questions
• Assuming kids are “too old” for games, play, and fun
• Making fun of the things they like
• Taking over the game
• Focusing on winning

When it comes to playing with your child, think quality over quantity. Make the most of your time by being present in the moment: try to avoid distractions, put your phone away, and give your child your full attention. Even 15 minutes can make a world of difference to your child!

ready to play

Pick a time and place! There are lots of options right at home, but if you want to try something different, here are some great options in our community:

• The Greene playground for climbing and outdoor play
• Boonshoft Museum of Discovery for hands-on exploration
• Five Rivers MetroParks for outdoor adventures and family walks

The most important thing isn’t where you play – it’s making time to enjoy one another’s company and have fun together.